Does Parenting Make You Stupid

Does Parenting Make You Stupid


shutterstock_178362227Over at Salon.com, Aaron Traister has a response, of sorts, to those childless folks (you’ve met some of them here on Motherlode over the past year) who are so very tired of self-centered and self-righteous parents who can talk about nothing but their children. Traister, who has been a stay-at-home dad for nearly four years, suggests that we Johnny-one-note-parents deserve pity, not contempt.

In an essay that is very funny, facetious, and much too true (and that a woman would be less likely to write, for fear of feeding “just a mother” unfortunate stereotypes) Traister explains that parents do not “blabber constantly out of some arrogance or indulgent desire to show off their great kids and their perfect parenthood.” No, he says, the reason all those parents are “rendered incapable of discussing anything except the contents of the baby’s diapers or the adorable thing little Cullen did to the dog” is because parenting has left us with empty, mushy brains.

“We sometimes hear ourselves and know how we must sound to others, and we feel great shame,” he writes. “Our children have broken us and turned us into single-subject simpletons.” READ MORE